Offered Alex a mince pie the other day, looked in the cupboard and they had both been nicked! I think I know who the culprit is. Phillip thought that because she has a learning disability her parents had gone easy on her. As a Christian he thought that people needed to be taught that stealing is wrong. He was upset by the things she took. I’m less bothered by it. It’s saved me some calories. I think she’s just naughty and it’s not upbringing nor lack of understanding. Anyway Alex shared with me his 30p Lidl chocolate bar and it was delicious. Couldn’t bite into it at first because he had put it in the fridge. Then my teeth snapped together when I really tried. Found a balance and enjoyed the choc.

Today I woke up late. Started my day with cinnamon cereal and banana. Decided to walk around the park before the light went. Listened to Underworld’s new album and took photos. Spotted a rainbow, photographed it and a passerby looked to see what I was looking at and noticed it too. Exchanged a few words which was nice.

Back at home sung on Smule with the man I was singing Buzzcocks with yesterday. Tried singing quietly last night too. I was pleased with our Tell Me Why by Neil Young, which oddly had a picture of a small dog in a pink wig. Not the first thing to spring to mind with that song.

Then I played some online Scrabble. Talked to Emily and told her I was playing Scrabble with my ex’s Mum. How many ex’s do you have? she asked. I said I didn’t know. Then she called me a bit of a tart and said she had lost count of the ones I had told her of. It’s starting to annoy me the way she manipulates her side of the conversation to make it sound like I’m talking about boys all the time. If she had been receptive she might have learnt something about my life. I fear I’m being characterised by an alien household.

Perhaps my diary will listen. I was with him for 3 years and often we played Scrabble with his mum irl. My mum played Scrabble online with her as a way of coping with me being mad. I feel like I’m connecting the circle by now playing her too.

I think I like to pretend to myself that Emily won’t value her little bit of fake drama more than getting to know me. It makes life seem less lonely and I’ll continue to talk to her as I wish. It’s offputting that she now has a family behind her or at least listening to her half of the conversation. They like me though. Really I admire her boldness at offending me when she would be really stuck if I stopped visiting her.

Anyway, enough of that. I had co op chilli for dinner which was comforting. Alex joined me but there was nothing on tele. I brought my PlayStation down and found Blackadder Goes Forth on Iplayer. Watched a couple of episodes. Susan laughed much more than me and I explained some bits for her causing more amusement. Drank a couple of glasses of red wine.

Susan and Alex went to bed after two episodes so I went up to my room.

I cheated in online Scrabble today against a random player and for the first time. I used an anagram solver to find the word equiseta scoring 84 points. It’s the plural of a plant that looks like a horses tail. I was interested in my attitude towards it. I wonder if my uncle cheats at Scrabble. He always wins against my Mum and it only makes her more determined to beat him. She takes so long thinking about each move. I just thought my letters, including a blank really looked like a word and I wanted to know what it was! Does that make me a bad person?

Anyway I learnt about a cool new plant.

Here’s my photos from the park –

That’s all folks.



Family Guy in the evening with Alex as is becoming our routine.

Long chat with my mum on FB chat. Shared some things I made a couple of summers ago –

Earlier listened to Radio 6 about Pete Shelley who recently passed away. I loved hearing songs I hadn’t heard before as well as the ones I knew. Twisted some letters out of a piece of white wire and made this –

Poor Emily has a womb infection and doesn’t want me to visit at the moment.

Been sat warming my feet by my electric heater. We all got given one because the boiler is broken. It’s nice they want us to be warm. I was okay with it being a bit chillier in the house, but I’m really enjoying the heater. I like to pretend it’s a log fire.

Sung Buzzcocks songs on Smule and got nice feedback.

Saw Stuart again on Wednesday and had a really nice time, including watching all of Blackadder the Third in bed!



Walked to Emily’s listening to Gogol Bordello, which put a spring in my step. Arrived feeling better than when I get a taxi there.

Listened to Christmas songs on the tele and drank cup a soups. Emily says she’s nervous about her operation tomorrow. In the garden she did a loud ‘It’s Christmas!’. I’ve requested she does it when I call her on Christmas Day, and she’s agreed. 🙂 Brought my last beer for her, but she didn’t want all of it, so I had half. Also brought The Lady In The Van, because she said she wanted to watch it again. Says the old lady reminds her of her gran. But she didn’t want to borrow it, doesn’t watch films often atm. Nor do I. Watched the Hairy Bikers making mushroom soup and rolls. I’ve made mushroom soup before so I found it quite interesting.

Said hi to Anne who was cosy on the sofa in her room playing Big Farm – a version of FarmVille that I cannot fathom. I’ve been playing FarmVille 2, and it was nice to see her playing an equivalent game. Find it a bit boring, but relaxing to tap away at and it’s nice to feel that I’m making steady progress in a way that is visualised.

Walked back as well, still listening to the music. People were walking dogs on glowing leads and I photographed the flower shop window display which looked very Christmassy.

Stopped at the shop and got Merlot, mince pies and buns. At home I watched Strictly with a glass of Merlot, a microwaved and crumbly mince pie (metal removed of course) and some chocolate icecream. Enjoyed watching Zoe Ball. Her expressions are great.

Often feels a bit lonely in the lounge when there’s no one there but it was okay. Watching tele feels more purposeful when it’s a shared experience, but it’s just a state of mind.

Retired to my room and Radio 6. I’ll call Emily again in a bit. Feel proud of myself for walking today. I had stayed in for a few days and my legs were starting to feel weird. Feel better for my walk.

That’s about all for today. Let’s see what tomorrow brings.



Cleaned the kitchen. Went for a 40 minute walk. Spoke to Emily who encouraged me to visit Jane in Southsea tomorrow. Sung Paul Simon. Arranged to meet Jane tomorrow at 3pm.

Emily told me off last night for bringing Simon back to mine. She talked about a murder story she heard. I fell asleep and had a weird dream. A girl I knew at school had her ear knived. Most people in the class stayed put. The attacker turned the knife on himself. I ran towards them to go past to get help and then back the other way. The first person I asked didn’t want to help, but the second did. There was an assembly and they wanted me to be visible at the front, to show that we are not afraid. But the other people at the front of the assembly turned away from the audience. I faced them alone, sat on the floor. I felt calm because it was what I had been told to do and because I thought it really might help. The girl who had been attacked was there and the speaker spoke openly about what had happened. Her ear had not been detached, but there was a wound nearly all the way around it.

I had also been playing a Who’s the Painter game on my IPhone, so that’s why there’s a Van Gogh reference in my dream.

Bit nervous about making the journey to Southsea tomorrow, but I ought to be able to make it okay. Maybe I’ll get a taxi back. It will be nice to see Jane again. Think it was a decade ago that I last saw her!



Chatted to Simon and agreed to meet up the following day. I got an early night, managed to sleep okay. Woke up at 9am next day, before my alarm! Felt tired but strode out to the shop and got some bits. Thought about him coming back to mine and got chocolate icecream (which one of his profile pictures shows him eating), grapes because they are sexy and popcorn in case we watch a film together. Didn’t get any booze because it’s heavy. Enjoyed being out in the morning for a change. It’s a nice time of day I ought to visit occasionally!

Back at home had a bath listening to Natalie Imbruglie perhaps a little loudly for the morning, but I reasoned that I needed to wake up. Decided to wear my black and green patterned dress with green and white birds flying on it. Put on make up for the first time in a long time. Attempted a smokey eyed look but went for brown eyeshadow all over in the end. Was a bit concerned that my mascara might run in the light rain but wanted to wear it, so did. Happy with the result, wandered about my room trying to find the best light for a selfie. Got one I liked.

I asked him to call me to make sure I was up, and he called at 1pm. He sounded nervous and I was a bit worried that we would have nothing to talk about on the date. Walked to the bus stop, then headed back home put some playing cards in my bag (he’s a professional poker player) in case he was as nervous as he sounded on the phone.

Got the bus to Cosham, arriving at the pub an hour early. I had been umming and ahhing about whether or not to have a Propanlol which I had been prescribed for Restlessness, which also has other effects. Good – reduces social anxiety. Bad (on a date) – reduces excitement. It was really busy and noisy in the pub, and I felt a bit intimidated and distracted by the noise, though not uncomfortable with it. I just felt like it was a bit too much for me and so it was an easy decision to take one. Had a hot chocolate which was like a square chocolate lollipop to stir in the hot, frothy milk from the machine. And then a cup of tea. By that point the pub noise was received by my ears in a much more pleasant way. Walked to Poundstretcher and got a tube of toothpaste, which I forgot on my earlier shop. Passed time smoking rollies and found the cutest place to sit so I would have a Christmas tree behind me. Decided to get a glass of Merlot to be drinking when he arrived to further enhance the charm of the scene and because its delicious. It was the nicest Merlot I’ve ever had and I wondered if it were a Christmassy one or if I was imagining it.

A bit late because of a train delay (which he texted me about) he arrived and recognised me. He had been caught in the rain and his short hair lay flat. I stood up and he asked if I wanted a hug. I had previously messaged him saying I’ld be disappointed if he doesn’t hug me, and he obviously remembered this and didn’t want to make that mistake! So we started the date with a hug, which wasn’t that awkward at all.

He drank Magners then Strongbow dark fruits which he joked was mixing drinks but as his level of risk taking. He was very chatty, and so he’s probably just not a phone person – something I can relate to.

He was eccentric, funny, very bright and talked with his hands in an comical way which delighted me. He told me straight away he thought I was prettier than my photos and I thought to myself the make up is working! He talked about genius characters on the TV and how often their way of working things out isn’t realistic and jolts him out of the programme. I said it’s more like they can predict the future sometimes then and teased him that thinking like that was only a way to enjoy programmes less. He was delighted that I was listening to everything he said, and wasn’t bothered that I was quiet, because I was listening.

He had been on a date with a girl who was into obscure sci fi programmes which he had watched, though he wondered why those rather average ones were her favourites. Despite enjoying her geeky interests he was disappointed that she started looking at her phone during the date. He concluded that sharing interests isn’t always a good thing and doesn’t mean you will connect. I agreed with him on this one, and told him what an All Illustrator Party consists of – everyone very much in their own little world, having their own private party in a room full of other people doing much the same thing!

He surprised me by talking about how he had thought a great deal about how to optimise the first date experience. But he was charming enough to get away with this. He talked away for 3 hours and asked if he could kiss me. He came over for a little kiss and sat next to me. His hands were a little smaller than mine and much more feminine, but nice to hold. He was excited to feel my bra strap through my clothes. I felt lots of little jolts of excitement during our conversation, so the Propanlol wasn’t making me less excited as I had thought it might.

We got a taxi back to mine, and he talked about playing poker at Amsterdam airport and not really seeing the city. But how on another trip he had pot brownies. I wondered if he felt that this was a similar, enjoyable but one off experience.

We sat in the front room, I with a Diet Coke, he with water and kissed some more hearing the sounds of other residents bumbling about. Decided to go up to my room. I showed him my CDs and we had the latest Chilli Peppers CD The Getaway, followed by Avril Lavigne and Garbage to chill out to. Wouldn’t be my first choice for a chill out CD but he was enjoying it so I let it play. Had a really nice time. He had an uncharming way of flattering me which I put down to his age even though he’s only 4 years younger than me. Actually it was my first time with a younger man. It went really well, and had a bdsm element which I really enjoyed. He had a sexy way of biting his lip and knew what he was doing with his slender fingered hands. He started to fall asleep but hadn’t eaten yet. Gave him macaroni cheese which he ate in bed.

Felt like I could fall asleep holding him, which I never normally feel. Stayed like that for a long time but in the end I went to my half of the bed.

Saw Anthea in the morning, dressed in my date clothes again because I didn’t want him to see me in the Emily clothes I normally wear. Had a catch up and my antipsychotics jab, didn’t even feel a scratch. She can see I’m doing really well and so the visits will be every two weeks.

Then brought him toast up to bed. He has minus 8 vision and paced my room for a minute, thinking and joking that he avoids doing pacing in other peoples rooms without his glasses on in case he bumps into something. Put 80s radio on and Easy Lover came on which annoyed me but I was too proud to change the station, so let it play. It was long and annoying in a funny way though. I enjoyed my hook up but I wouldn’t choose that as the music for it!

Shortly afterwards I walked him to the bus stop and waited with him, asking about poker. He thinks it’s not inconceivable that he should win the one million pound prize. He’s been researching on YouTube and has won big competitions in the past. Doesn’t know what he would do with the money, but that doesn’t bother him too much.

The rest of my day has been quiet and reflective. Watched some tele with Alex, divers again and all animal, dark grey green coral found in the depths. They were drilling 40 year cylinders out of some huge coral and getting a long record of what the weather had been like. Using UV light to see white bands on the coral more clearly. One thick white band represented a year of heavy rain though I don’t know why.

Ran the Bonne Maman under the tap to get it open and had a nice jam sandwich, some grapes and a cup of coffee. Support staff Holly visited and had a little chat with her about me and Phillip having broken up. She paused halfway down the stairs to talk some more. ‘Keep swiping!’ she cheerily ended with, which I found funny because of last nights adventure.

But I have been looking on dating sites today. There’s a long haired fellow with a nonsensical profile who I might meet soon. He is funny and talks to cats. Simon, (I’m calling him Simon here) is great but ultimately I’m looking for a boyfriend and I don’t see him being that.

Since then I’ve been writing this blog post. I like the idea of being old and being able to read about my adventures in detail. I sometimes have trouble remembering what I did yesterday, so writing this blog good for keeping my memories safe.

Just received another message from a man who doesn’t want to date me because him finds me physically unattractive and doesn’t want to date a smoker. Felt a little bit weird about that for a while, but feel properly restored now. Not that I need a man to convince me of how I look, but I’ve got in touch with my sexy self again after his attentions.

Also another reason to end this blog post here is Paul Simon came on the radio and I’m thinking that’s an artist I haven’t tried on Smule. Might be fun to try. Glad I’m establishing a routine of waking up earlier.

No sleep over at Emily’s because they all still have colds, and no visit today because she’s out Christmas shopping with Annie. Simon slept under the starry side of the unicorn duvet she gave me. I otherwise use it as an extra blanket for my feet, because I don’t want my life to resemble hers too much. And because it’s so cosy!



A drawing inspired by one I drew in the past.

Toast and marmite for breakfast. Alex helped a bird stuck in a drainpipe. Walked to the shop and got milk, cola and chocolate with the last of my money. I get my ESA through tomorrow. Watched some Blue Planet and had a cup of tea and a Twix. Didn’t think I would get into it, but I did. The dolphins were lovely to watch, playing at dropping pieces of coral and following them. David Attenborough commented that some coral fell fast and some slow. They are practising their skillz like kittens do.

Sung on Smule. Played rummy with Alex. Video chat with Dan and Adam. Adam has a new toy, a wrecking ball. Then chatted to Emily. She’s very amused by my rendition of A Whole New World and liked my duet of These Boots Were Made For Walking.

Didn’t realise she spent Christmas alone when I was in hospital.

Chicken, chips and peas for dinner.

Here’s a duet of Itchycoo Park with a man who used to live there.




Crunchy nut cornflakes with soya milk for breakfast.

Went for my blood test in the morning, which was fine.

Back at home I got the Smule singing app and enjoyed singing some songs.

In the evening watched a bit of tele with Alex. A documentary about divers after giant limpet creatures in shark infested waters. Quite interesting. A man told a true story of his close encounter with a shark. Suggested we watch a film together, but he wanted to go to bed.

There’s a Smule widget for WordPress but I haven’t yet worked out how to use it. I’m ideakitten on Smule if you want to follow me there too.

Here’s a photo from the last day with Phillip. I like his frog air freshener. He was called frog at school on account of his unusual toes.